"That stupid phrase you tell to your 'object of desire' meaning that they made you who you are/you can't live without them/they're a part of you now. " (Edited for punctuation)
But Tom Cruise said it, so it must be true!
Not to mention the lack of chemistry between Tom Cruise and Renee Zellweger.
And yet, I think this is an all too common sentiment.
Just google "you complete me myth" and you will find plenty of articles, books, and counselors/psychologists trying to teach us that this mindset is unhealthy for our relationships. Meaning that it's a problem we are trying to fix.
Everyone is looking for "the one" who completes us, our better half, the one who makes us whole.
Yikes. As most of the sources from the above google search mention, this is a lot of pressure on our relationships.
But I think it's also a lot of pressure on ourselves individually.
It's interesting to me that ALL of the links from my google search were focused on relationships, whether dating or marriage.
And that's good - I'm not knocking that. I totally agree with what they are saying. I just think they are missing one angle. The "you complete me myth" is very destructive when someone is in a relationship. But I think it can be extremely destructive to someone who is single.
I once attended a wedding where the pastor talked about how the two people getting married had found their other halves, how now they were complete. (That's not the exact phrasing, but it's the gist of what he said).
If I never get married, am I an incomplete person? HECK NO!
If getting married means becoming complete, then someone who is single is somehow less than someone who is married. I think we can all agree that this is not right! But that is the danger of this idea. It can cause people to feel inferior just because they are single.
Is this idea of completion a biblical concept? No, it's not.
This idea of soulmates comes from a Greek myth about Zeus. The humans were getting too big for their britches, and they attacked Mount Olympus. As punishment, Zeus split them in half, thinking it would make them less powerful. So now we scurry around on the Earth, trying to find our other half.
We need to change this kind of thinking. It is God who makes us complete, not humans. And someone who is not married is just as complete as someone who is married. The idea that we cannot be happy, healthy, or successful without a romantic relationship in our lives is not a good one. But it's one that our culture, media, and entertainment keep pushing on us.
I keep hearing this song over and over again and I feel like God is trying to say something to me through the song. I realize that it is about marriage - but I think it's a good way to think about all of our relationships. We don't complete each other, it's God that completes us. We are all broken together. It's too much expectation to think that someone else (who isn't God) can make you whole.